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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah: Getting to 13 Without Being a Goy.


Summary via Wikipedia:

Stacy Friedman and Lydia Rodriguez Katz are best friends who have always dreamed about having epic bat mitzvahs, but things start to go comically awry when a popular boy and middle school drama threatens their friendship and their rite of passage



The best Adam Sandler movie I’ve seen in the last few years on Netflix, doesn’t star him, but his daughter, Sunny. She’s the Bat Mitzvah girl of the title. Adam Sandler’s wife and other daughter, Jackie and Sadie, show up in other roles. It’s a true family affair.


Most of You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah has a Judy Blume vibe. Bat Mitzvahs are after all a Jewish ritual to adulthood. Compared to the Spanish Quinceaneras the parties are more lavish and contained. The Jewish girls have Bat Mitzvahs at 12-13 and not 15 like Spanish girls.


It’s the friendship that is important here. The upper class neighborhood obviously had a baby boom twelve years before. There are at least 3-4 mitzvahs during the movie. A little Torah is snuck in via a daffy rabbi played by Sarah Sherman from SNL. There is the expected blow up via by boyfriend confusion that causes the title un-invite. The angst repair that follows is basically the plot.


Sunny Sadler has a natural style and banter that works, not only with her Sandler relatives but her costars. The script by Allison Peck is also relatable and authentic- full of Judy Blume cribs, and the more endearing moments from the source novel by Fiona Rosenbloom. It’s full of inside jokes that most teens will get, and fashion styles they wear or recognize.


You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah has an innocent, throwback appeal. That makes it the perfect family Netflix film. It gets a 3.5 out of 5 or a B+.



Directed by

Sammi Cohen

Written by

Alison Peck

Based on

You Are So Not Invited To My Bat Mitzvah

by Fiona Rosenbloom

Produced by



Ben Hardwicke

Edited by

Brian Robinson

Music by



Distributed by


Release date

  • August 25, 2023

Running time

103 minutes


United States





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